| [+] Friends Cut - Why? 1. I am not happy. I haven't been happy for a while. I spend too much time online, and not enough time doing things I should be doing to keep myself fit, healthy and happy. This is a situation that I need to rectify - a lifestyle choice needs to be made, changes need to occur - and this is one of them.
2. Sometimes I feel as if people don't want to be on my f-list. There are some who update daily but haven't the time to comment on almost any of my own posts. There are others who sought me out, asking to be added and have ignored both my posts and my comments on their posts. I know real life is hard, I understand that we all have our own personal issues, and that live journal exists to some as an escape from these, but I think of my f-list as an extension of my real life friends, and with some people here it's all take and no give, and (I'd like to think understandably) it hurts to think that some people don't want to reply to my comments, but have the time to reply to others - or that some people don't want to reply to my entries, but constantly update their own journal and reply to comments there.
I'd like to note that I'm not completely innocent here either. I know there are some people who, when they update, I just cannot find something to comment on their journal with. But if that's the case for you with my journal, then it's probably for the best that you remove me. It doesn't make sense to keep me around if we have nothing in common.
3. I need to de-stress myself. I need to find an objective third party and talk to them, to figure out why I feel the way I feel - and what I can do to change it. And I think, if I'm quite honest, that Live Journal is a large part of what stresses me - because I wasted six weeks doing nothing of any consequence and when my mother asks me what I do on my computer all day, the answer makes me feel sick to my stomach with self pity and shame. And that is not right.
4. So it comes to this. I have cut people for whatever reason I saw fit. Perhaps I didn't think you wanted to be here, perhaps I realised your own issues were too important, your own worry too great, and you didn't need mine to pass over. Perhaps I just didn't think you were worth the effort because it's not being reciprocated (unless something is on offer). If you believe I was wrong, please comment and we'll talk about it (because talking about my problems and asserting myself is on my list of things to improve) but this may not change my mind. I'm sorry if you're deeply offended, that is not my intention, I simply hope you can respect my desire and need to be a happier, healthier person.
5. Alternatively - if you've been kept (there were some I was on the fence about) but want an out, here it is. I won't be offended. I'd actually understand completely and utterly. I'm also taking this time to notify anyone who is on the fence - I will not be around as much as I once was, nor will I be busting my gut to reply to most posts, as I once was. So if commenting is a main factor when considering a reason to have my on your f-list, please feel free to say goodbye - as I have said, I won't be offended at all. |